What is a Healthy Relationship?
A healthy relationship involves two people who share:
- Mutual respect
- Separate Identities
- Good communication
How to maintain a healthy relationship?
- Be aware of what you both want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship
- Inform each other of what you’re personal needs are
- Know that some needs are met outside of the relationship
- Willingness to negotiate and in some cases learn how to compromise
- Have compassion towards one another
- Be supportive each other’s problems
How both people should be treated?
- Both people should put forward the same amount of happiness towards the other.
- Both should feel comfortable and have no fear when expressing their selves
- Equal amounts of:
- Interest in the others activities and hobbies
- Respect for each other’s privacy
Characteristics of a good partner?
- Respectful and Independent
- Has a sense of humor
What is an Unhealthy Relationship?
- When someone puts the other person before them, thus neglecting themselves
- When someone feels pressured into changing who they are for the other person
- When someone feels pressure to quit things they enjoy
- Lack of privacy
- Yelling or physical violence
- Experience lack of honesty and equality
Why don’t people demand better?
- In many cases people are so used to being mistreated that they can’t really tell when they’re in an unhealthy relationship
- Afraid of consequences due to confrontation
- Fear of not finding someone better
- Fear of things getting worse
What is the root of the problem?
- In most cases people have grown up with the mentality that violence or horrid behavior from their partner is okay
- Sometimes people just don’t know if or not their relationship is healthy or not because they don’t know the difference
Relationships are nice but…
- You should be able to take care of yourself and stand up for yourself as an individual
- Maintain relationships with friends and family
- Feel secure and comfortable with yourself
What is Domestic Violence?
- Domestic Violence: is when one partner is an intimate relationship abuses the other
- Physical Abuse: is characterized by aggressive tendencies, such as beatings, throwing, shoving, and slapping
- Emotional Abuse: constantly bringing the other person down, verbal insults threats, social isolation
- Psychological Abuse: using fear to intimidate the other person, and or threatening to abuse the other person
- Sexual Abuse: forcing and or demanding sexual behavior
How to identify Domestic Violence
- When someone controls what you do, whom you see, and even where you go
- Using insulting names toward the other person
- Making the other person feel ashamed, scared, and stupid, etc.
- Acting jealous
- Constantly critiquing:
- How one dresses
- How one acts
- Basically criticizing everything the other does
- Monitoring the others phone
- Consistently trracking the others location by phone calls, text messaging or tracking softwares
- Causes the other person problems in their work or at school
- Threatening to commit suicide if the other person leaves them
How to deal with Domestic Violence
- Understand what domestic violence is
- Know all of the signs
- Know the laws against domestic violence in your state, and not be afraid to seek help
- Determine if you are experiencing domestic violence
- Tell someone you trust such as a:
- Family member
- Take note, or recordings of all acts of abuse that you experience
- Be aware of your environment at all times when you are with your partner
- Prepare a safety plan
- PRACTICE your safety plan and potential escape routes
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