Unhealthy Relationships & Domestic Violence

What is a Healthy Relationship?

A healthy relationship involves two people who share:

  • Mutual respect
  • Trust
  • Honesty
  • Support
  • Fairness/Equality
  • Separate Identities
  • Good communication

How to maintain a healthy relationship?

  • Be aware of what you both want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship
  • Inform each other of what you’re personal needs are
  • Know that some needs are met outside of the relationship
  • Willingness to negotiate and in some cases learn how to compromise
  • Have compassion towards one another
  • Be supportive each other’s problems

How both people should be treated?

  • Both people should put forward the same amount of happiness towards the other.
  • Both should feel comfortable and have no fear when expressing their selves
  • Equal amounts of:
    •  Encouragement
    • Interest in the others activities and hobbies
    • Respect for each other’s privacy

 Characteristics of a good partner?

  • Mature
  • Open-minded
  • Honest
  • Respectful and Independent
  • Affectionate
  • Has a sense of humor
  • Empathetic

What is an Unhealthy Relationship?

  • When someone puts the other person before them, thus neglecting themselves
  • When someone feels pressured into changing who they are for the other person
  • When someone feels pressure to quit things they enjoy
  • Lack of privacy
  • Yelling or physical violence
  • Experience lack of honesty and equality

Why don’t people demand better?

  • In many cases people are so used to being mistreated that they can’t really tell when they’re in an unhealthy relationship
  • Afraid of consequences due to confrontation
  • Fear of not finding someone better
  • Fear of things getting worse

What is the root of the problem?

  • In most cases people have grown up with the mentality that violence or horrid behavior from their partner is okay
  • Sometimes people just don’t know if or not their relationship is healthy or not because they don’t know the difference 
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Relationships are nice but…

  • You should be able to take care of yourself and stand up for yourself as an individual
  • Maintain relationships with friends and family
  • Feel secure and comfortable with yourself

What is Domestic Violence?

  • Domestic Violence: is when one partner is an intimate relationship abuses the otherPhysical Abuse: is characterized by aggressive tendencies, such as beatings, throwing, shoving, and slapping
    • Emotional Abuse: constantly bringing the other person down, verbal insults threats, social isolation
    • Psychological Abuse: using fear to intimidate the other person, and or threatening to abuse the other person
    • Sexual Abuse: forcing and or demanding sexual behavior
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How to identify Domestic Violence

  • When someone controls what you do, whom you see, and even where you go
  • Using insulting names toward the other person
  • Making the other person feel ashamed, scared, and stupid, etc.
  • Acting jealous
  • Constantly critiquing:How one dresses
    • How one acts
    • Basically criticizing everything the other does
  • Monitoring the others phone
  • Consistently trracking the others location by phone calls, text messaging or tracking softwares
  • Causes the other person problems in their work or at school
  • Harassing
  • Threatening to commit suicide if the other person leaves them

How to deal with Domestic Violence

  • Understand what domestic violence is
  • Know all of the signs
  • Know the laws against domestic violence in your state, and not be afraid to seek help
  • Determine if you are experiencing domestic violence
  • Tell someone you trust such as a:Friend
    • Family member
    • Professional
  • Take note, or recordings of all acts of abuse that you experience
  • Be aware of your environment at all times when you are with your partner
  • Prepare a safety plan
  • PRACTICE your safety plan and potential escape routes


“Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships.” Hall Health Center. University of Washington. Hall Health Center Health Promotion Staff, Jan. 2014. Web. 07 Dec. 2016.

“Common Relationship Problems.” UF|CWC Counseling and Wellness Center. Counseling and Wellness Center, 2015. Web. 7 Dec. 2016.

Schuder, Kristen. “WikiHow to Deal with Domestic Violence.” WikiHow. WikiHow, 2016. Web. 7 Dec. 2016.

“The Warning Signs of Abuse.” Domestic Violence Roundtable. Domestic Violence Roundtable, 2014. Web. 7 Dec. 2016.


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